Need help from the guys

[The Wifey]

In a relationship, relationship gets hard, he finds someone to listen to the problems in the relationship, he loses his feelings for the one he is with and falls for the one he is talking to, bails....rinse....repeat. He has many issues from his childhood that I believe he is scared to face. Coach your thoughts would be very welcome.

I signed in just to post to you, which I haven't done a lot of lately. Sorry, I'm not a guy. Only a woman that has some time and experience on the roller coaster.

The quote, "We attack the things in other people that we most fear in ourselves" came to my mind when I read your words.

Whatever you said to him, no matter how venomous, you have to put yourself out there and apologize. You apologize because it is the right thing to do. Not with an expectation that he will apologize back. Not with an expectation that it will change anything. Just because. Then you walk away calmly.

No fair weighing how many bad or awful things he has said or done in deciding whether or if to apologize. He doesn't get a pass on any of those, but they are his demons to deal with. You, my dear, can only change you. You can not change him.

I know you've read and heard this, but I can tell you it is true. What I have learned since last June 2nd is that I had a lot to learn and much growing to do. I am still on my journey, but have traveled very far.

You are your most important asset. You need to be the best you that you can. It takes a long time to figure out what that means. With time, grace, and effort - it is worth finding out.

You can not attract a man unless you shine. By putting the time and effort into yourself you will shine brighter than you ever thought possible.

I will add you to my prayer list.