WAW/Affair Exposed - Advice? #3

[DCBHM]

D1 was doing good this morning. I picked her up and she put her chin on my shoulder, opened her mouth, and went "aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah" for about 2 minutes and then laughing.

I gave her a kiss, put her down, and when I told her bye she started crying. I really hate leaving in the mornings, but I will get her tomorrow so that will be good.

Meeting with L went well. I discussed my long-term strategy and he was on the same page and gave me some homework assignments to get an additional lick in at the hearing. W's attorney hasn't filed a response to my motion and it has been over a month. I imagine she didn't sign up for this.

So I reflect on how I got here... I first encouraged W to seek help (counseling/therapy) which precipitated our separation. Her "raging" incident that night prompted me to take her house key and begin segregating myself from her.

We are still legally married... and probably will be for some time. All I've really asked for from the D process is the right to be a part of raising my daughter. There is no valid reason W has outside of spite and vindictiveness not to allow that.

Yet she fired the first shot. Now it almost seems as if she has lost interest in doing anything outside of talking trash about me to anyone who will listen.

Of course my L told me, I'm in a position now where I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I'm not going to get less time with D1 than I have now. Worst-case scenario I get the standard visitation in the end, which leaves me with about the same I have now. I think my L is the understater of the year though, he always acts like "maybe" I've got enough to overcome her inherent 10 point advantage for being a woman in regard to custody. I've got more than anyone ever has - but I think he doesn't want me to become arrogant or overconfident.

I just have steadfast determination and unshakable faith that things will turn out as they should. I don't know what the future holds, with or without W, I know I'll be there as much as I can be for D1.