PM Thread #5 - Hope new plan works

[PositivelyMommy]

PM,

It definately looked like YOU had him in the palm of your hand, brilliant, I am so pleased for you. I like the way you epitomised DR to the max - looking good, PMA, detachment, GAL. You clearly have got your life on track and looking to the future with or without your H, though that would be the ultimate.
We all know most WAW's have planned a new life before the bomb has dropped, thinking the grass is always greener with OP or alone, in some cases this may be the case, but in general this is not usually the case from what I hear and read.

Thank you so much for your encouragement Mark. I hope to live as I preach. I guess that is why I go to Newcomers and read. I want to reinforce what I learn and 'make it stick'. I also want to put myself in others' shoes and see how men and women interact. I guess that is why I have just a little insight into why your W is angry at you. Because I thought those exact same thoughts of my H. Now I know where I erred. I knew my H was not deliberately selfish, I just knew he didn't step up. So I dearly hope that you could do that for your R with your kids at least so you can have an improvement over the past.

You are absolutely right about the greener grass statement. My IC used the same words in his prior session to me. I can see now that my H does not think the grass is greener with OW. Where he chooses to go is still up for grabs.