I am sorry to hear of your latest set back. I can fully understand and agree with your reluctance to stand by and let it happen then forget about it. It's been too long getting to this point to go back to the 'old' you.
In a way, I think you were half prepared for this to happen, but hoped it wouldn't. You never know, if you stay on your own path he might just find that he prefers the 'strong' Kassie.
I know controlling people actually like to be controlled themselves. It's a comfortable arena for them. Persuading them of this is difficult when you are close.
I have a completely different relationship with my new 'friend' than I have EVER had before and it's a lot, lot better.
There is no need for control as I am perfectly happy on my own now and know that I can survive without someone else. I just happen to PREFER to be with someone at the moment. It's a CHOICE not a requirement. I hope that your H can start to feel that way about you and him as well.
