When you take that two hour drive, don't feel as if "you" have to fill in the moments of silence. We women think that some type of conversation has to be going on all the time. However, it is not up to us to keep it rolling. In fact, he may welcome the silence or it may even get him to talking.
You be "you" and don't let him take that away. 180's are good as long as you don't lose who you are down deep inside. They are to improve the stitch trying to find what works and what doesn't. You are working on yourself to improve you....for "you".
When I suggested telling the boys the truth, I really wasn't even thinking about the H being there and the both of you doing it together. He may or may not agree to do that. I kind of think he may not want to if it makes him look like the bad guy to his boys. He's probably rather put up that smoke screen so they can't see the truth. But, if he won't agree to it, if I were you I would tell him that you are not going to lie to the kids any more just to cover his a$$.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
