The adventure continues--part 5

[AFWAW]

John...if this is an IM conversation you really need to save this for many reasons

Already done.

Your daughter is your #1 priority for now...nothing else matters...you MUST sit her down and tell her the truth soon.

Already did it last night.

supervised, court ordered, at her expense...under no circumstance would I want my daughter to be with someone who is a self-proclaimed " i'm like a straight hoochie now. i love to flirt and i love attention. i am an addict...you've got some kind of blinders on or something.
..i'm sure you could tell i crave attention."

Good point, this one may be tougher than you think though.

Expose...she is an adult, the OM is an adult, one a SNCO the other an officer...hopefully your friend can identify who is who...you really need to talk to your Shirt and CC...at your rank you should not be embarassed to tell them what is going on...as a minimum ask for a appointment with your CC and talk to him

As soon as I have a name and verify what type vehicle he drives, I will. Obviously, I'll see his vehicle at her apartment.

Make sure you do nothing that would put you in a bad light...pay your bills, start church (not trying to push church on you just telling you how it is...if you were a judge and you had to decide custody and your options were a hoochie with 4/OM or a church going military man just returned from Iraq protecting the freedom of our country who would you select? Do well at work, stick with your PT, if you have a booze collection in your house give it away now...anything that would be considered a negative in the house with a 13 yr old girl...trash i

Nope, I'm good here.

who cares if your W thinks you are having fun tonight or wearing nice shoes...your goal is custody and security(money) for your daughter...romance is nice when you have food to eat and the bills are paid...not when you are paying 45-49% of your 50% of $4K(E-7 Base pay) for alimony...

Agreed, she's not getting any of my money. If she wants alimony from me then that's pretty funny at this point.

You are soon going to have to decide if you even want to be with her

Right at this second I don't. While I still love her, this is a stupid, stupid person who would give up what she is giving up and I obviously cannot trust her.

He is still living with her?

Don't know, that's why my friend is going to find out what type vehicle he drives as well so I can drive over to the apartment and see one night next week.

and always you must process everything that is happening and decide your own future.

This is the hardest part of all--I don't have a clue at this point but fortunately I don't have to decide anything today or tomorrow. But soon I will.