I really think you're starting to get a grasp of what it is you're doing wrong. You need to stop trying to use your R with your kids to impress your W. In fact, you need to stop trying to impress your W period. In trying to impress her with your actions, those actions will come across as false and she knows you well enough to be able to see right through it. What you need to do is to have the conviction to improve for yourself regardless of what she thinks. The chances are that she'll notice and like what she sees. The main thing here is that your changes will be genuine and easier to maintain. If you're only making changes to get your W back, it'll be much harder to keep them going in later life. If however, you do them for yourself and remain true to yourself during these changes, they will become second nature to you and be easy to maintain.
I definitely sense you're doing better now Mark. Keep up the good work.
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.
