Well, my long stretch of work is almost over ..... one more day ... & then the weekend ...... I cannot wait!! Yeah!!!!! It felt so good to get off work at 6pm today instead of 9pm!!!
My H emailed me today to ask if I wanted to do his b'day dinner tonight. Hhmm such short notice. I said yes & we met at a pizza joint that was close to my job location & his house.
It was sssooo nice seeing him again. We ate & he mostly talked about his job. We chit chatted about other things. It seems he didn't go to laser tag last night. His friend wanted to have a beer or 2 or 6, then ate & then it was too late.
After we ate I gave him his b'day gift. I gave him a viking book, his favorite vhs on dvd & 2 pieces of cake. He loved them both & said, oh yeah, I didn't get a b'day cake!! If we would have been together, I would have bought him a whole cake & not just 2 pieces from the store.
Then we walked across the street & not at the cross walk. I joked he was trying to kill me!! We sat outside & each had a martini. Can you tell, I'm a bit buzzed. Well, if not I am. The waiter bought us each a shot too. My H joked that he wouldn't have bought us a shot, if he knew how cheap I was. LOL - but it's true! We chatted some more. I asked him if he ever thought about going to school. He said he has wanted to go to school for 10 years or so. Hhhhmmm, never really knew that. Then I told him about the course, I paid for & never finished. (This happened just before the bomb). I said, I wished I would have spent the money on his schooling instead. He said, he's too old to go to school. Sorry, but DB failed me, as I had to say he wasn't too old.
So our night ended with a couple of hugs & kisses again. Previously, I asked him over for Sunday. He said, he will probably see me on Sunday.
So that, was that. A short meeting, but again very nice.
PS. I would type more - but frankly, my mind is spinning, from the martini & shot of jameson & I've had too many typos to correct - lol
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
WOw MsM ! Sounds like a brilliant evening! Great gifts too, well chosen (I LOVE Viking books!!) and he was clearly touched. I like that he extended dinner to go get a martini too (I've never had one, are they nice !?). And the hugs and kisses.. gosh, your sitch sure is strange!
I thikn I asked before but I dont remember if you answered, but I assume there is no sniff of ow in your sitch, as yuo never mention it and it doesnt seem to be from the way he behaves?
I thikn you did good DBing! Its good to compliment/show interest. xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Ali.... it's an aquired taste but you should at least give it a try LOL!
MsM, you sound like you are enjoying life so I am happy for you!!! I will also say that you sound like a really great person (you drink martinis right?) so .......
I totally agree, my sitch is strange!! lol I guess on my journey I have found that in the end there where 2 paths I could choose. 1. Fighting my H to stay M (which is what I wanted)but was getting me no where. or 2. Choose what was comfortable for him, which seems to be getting D and continuing to regain our friendship & closeness. Both or either could turn out to be a no win situation. In the end I'm finding that I'm happy, content with either of them. I guess, I'm learning it doesn't have to be MY way. I don't think there is an ow involved (as he told me last month he had not dated anyone since we have been apart). Was he telling the truth, or lying as to not hurt me. Don't know & will not torment myself with it.
Yes, martinis esp. dirty martinis (vodka & green olive juice) are an acquired taste. Yet chocolate martinis are delicious (vodka & chocolate liquier). Probably, anything put in a martini glass, you could call a martini. Vodka or vanilla vodka & root beer is good too as well as vodka & hot coco. BTW - no I'm not Russian - with my vodker obbession!
Kenn, a viking book is simply or the one I gave my H was simply a historical book about the viking age.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
BTW - Thank you for the compliments, Ali. Yes, the gifts I gave were not pricey, but thoughtful, as to what he likes. Actually, I suggested the after dinner drink, since this was my treat for his b'day.
And Kenn, thanks for the compliment as well. So anyone who drinks martinis is a great person - eh? Is that gin or vodker? lol
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
That's great! I'm so pleased you had a good time. It sounds so positive! You are setting the building blocks for a new wall of closeness and friendship and demolishing that old one.
