I haven't posted to you but have followed your threads. I could see how badly you were trying to make sense out of your XH's nonsense. I think it took awhile to realize that there are no logical answers -- there is a loosely-based "script" that these guys follow, but even that is illogical for the most part.
You are questioning your XH's sudden disinterest in his great passion (fishing). Well, my XH did this in reverse. During the 20 years we were married, he never showed an interest in hunting. We never even had a gun in the house. Well, about a year prior to the "bomb", he began collectng guns. By the time he actually left, he had two large gun cases filled with guns (my son estimated about $200,000 in guns).
Then he became the great white hunter. He went on canned hunting trips every weekend. I'm sure he kept his taxidermist bisy for a couple of years (probably about 75 mounted "heads" ... yuk!).
Just before I filed for divorce, he took his young OW on an African safari hunt.
During the D, he lost all interest in guns and hunting. He hasn't been hunting in almost 2 years now. I thought it was a good sign (that maybe the fog was lifting) but he is still stuck.
There just isn't any rhyme or reason to this stuff.
Thanks for your support. My xh, unlike most here, is wanting NO CONTACT with me so I dont get to actually see the results of whatever he is going through first hand. All I know is when this last ow came into the picture, contact ended. AND so has his fishing, as far as I know. He has taken our son fishing on his birthday every year forever and this year I think he told him no. I hate this for our son, I hate this for me, I hate this for my xh. I have said before, I can understand someone falling out of love and wanting a divorce (although not over night), but I cant understand the "not having a heart".
