Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

Mistake?....I was at the ballpark tonight and H calls. Probably shouldn't have answered, but that was one of his big complaints pre-bomb, so I do try to answer when he calls. Wanted to meet us for dinner. We did and everything was ok, we even laughed some with the kids. He hugged me several times (I initiated no physical contact). We ended up talking in the parking lot for over an hour - no R stuff just about his dance classes, etc. He noticed the weight I've lost and commented positively.

BUT here's what I'm trying to figure out how to handle. Saturday night a lady he used to work with and her family are supposed to meet us at the ballpark, watch S7's game and go to dinner. It's been planned for a while and I confirmed with H Monday that he still wanted to do this (before confirming with her.) So tonight he says he didn't realize it was dinner, thought it was lunch and that he has a dance class Saturday night at 7 that he's already paid for (even though there are no credit card charges for it.) 180 for me was that I did not react, did not offer to make excuses for him, just asked him what he was going to tell her. He said I could go without him (WTH - this is HIS friend!). I am not going to make excuses for him here, not going to call her and cancel. He can figure out what to say (more lies). When he left he said he would think about cancelling it, but didn't sound very convincing. She works with OW and it will be everything I can do if he ends up bailing and I'm stuck with them not to say anything. Talk about torture. And get this - there ARE NO CLASSES on Saturday night at 7pm (of course). Yes, I checked (bad I know) - it's posted on their website. SOOOO....how do I 180 this one? Go ahead and have dinner with them "as if"?

Good things about tonight - I had no expectations and the more I looked at him and listened to him talking, the more I didn't feel what I have been these past few weeks. It's like I'm beginning to detach the current H from the one I used to know and I'm more able to dislike this current H. I didn't even freak out thinking about what he's probably really doing Saturday night. Does that mean I'm detaching? Who knows...all depends on the minute I guess.

He comes home tomorrow night and I'm not looking forward to it. Weird.