Been in mlc board for sometime. Divorce was final almost two months ago.Working through alot of the emotional issues involved in divorce.Ex is difinitely confusing me though. She wanted her name changed back to her maiden name, but she opened a checking account and still signs her married name.She still calls me 5or6 times a week about assorted things. . Part of me really wants to just say to her, leave me alone, I want and need to get on with my life.Part of me still holds out hope, she will come out her mlc and want to get back together.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
You think you're confused now, ohhhh, just give it some time. Welcome to hell, I mean the forum. Actually, it sounds like she may be a little confused about the whole situation....which MIGHT be good for you.
FWIW, these next few (who am I kidding) there's no understanding. Anything can and probably will happen just stay consistant and it will help you deal with the unexpected.
Its worked for me until I fell back into same knee jerk reactions.
cire
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
I would love to go dark, but with kids involved it is pretty much out of the question.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Expect the unexpected, that's all I've got. On name issues, mine filed for the D and has stated many times she can't wait to have her maiden name back.
So 2 weeks ago I give her first child support check made out to her in her married name with her maiden in paranthesis. She looked at it, and looked like she was about to tear up and walked away
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
To be honest, I don't really care if she uses her married name.She just made a point of wanting to change her name back.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
My ex-w kept her maiden name. It really never bothered me, and she never corrected anyone who referred to her with my last name. She felt at the time she should keep her name for the sake of her daughter (who I later adopted), who was in 8th grade at the time we married. Every now and then I wonder if she had it planned all along that she would leave once her daughter was out of the house and college was paid for. I doubt seriously that was her MO, but I do wonder sometimes and others have also pointed that out.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM
