Need to really make changes for me (thread #3)

[mdoodles]

i think u have been doing a great job, stay strong and stay alert.

situation sounds messy but try not to overwelm yourself with all of the details, take it one step at a time.

stay far away from ow, especially if she has harmed u in the past.

the best thing u can do is your own "no contact" with her. even if she calls, ignore it. i found with the ow in my situation, as long as i did not feed into her, didnt answer the calls, didnt respond to texts, she stopped trying to contact me (well atleast for the last 2 weeks, lol). as long as u do nothing, nothing can ever come back to you as you doing "something" to provoke her.

u can only take it one day at a time. i also worried what would happen when h finally ended it with ow. i really thought she would flip, i thought of amy fisher (i grew up in her town)...the ow in my situation is from another country, isnt a citizen here. she came here when she was 19, met my husband and thought she had the american dream.

and guess what - she isnt flipping to my knowledge as i thought.

we dont really know how their relationships really are, i bet they are not so great, not so care free.

i understand they have a child, which does complicate things, but u never really know how things will turn out.

try not to project, i always remind myself that.