to cooperate you have to fight fair. The problem with fighting fair is it takes two people. Statements such as "you always..., and you never..." are examples of unfair fighting. If you are trying to work something out, you both need to erase that from the vocabulary. there are rules to getting along in a marriage. You can learn them at a Retrouvaille weekend.
Agreed.
The question that really sparked this whole discussion from me was how to handle a spouse who does not fight fair. I can't just hope "Well, if only she would not do that" and right now Retrouvaille is out of the question.
Maybe this is a topic for our next MC.
Better yet, I am looking for a way to change what I do or how I react that accepts that she is going to fight that way, but that i can deflect it and get the discussion back on track.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
