Just read a post from 'Coach' with an interesting quote 'the people that have had success DB'g kept a PMA and found the good in the situation'.
So, PMA - I believe I'm doing very well. Haven't cried in awhile, making more changes around the house to make it feel different/more my own, exercising, getting comments almost every day about how good I look (15 lbs lost), feeling much more myself at work with laughters and smiles back on my face, comfortable with the kids and how they're coping and I feel pretty peaceful most days anymore.
My BF's H that works with my H told BF after I left last night that I seem to be doing much better than H. Guess he doesn't seem happy and he thought I seemed to be doing pretty well. I think I am too!
And the good in the situation.....
I was taking my R for granted. This situation reminds me about the value of a happy, healthy R. I am working on how to get my teenagers to open up with feelings... instead of just coasting along, I'm working on healthy discussions when they're open to it. I've talked with FIL and SIL more and mended some fences there. I appreciate my BFs, but want to listen to their stuff too - it's a two-way street and it's nice to get the focus off of me. Mammogram scare... won't know for a few weeks along the dr said it's quite common to have to re-do the films. The good in that is it reminds me to take care of my body. Especially as a single mom. Eat right, exercise. Appreciate the time we have while we have it.
