Eclipse...

[Jimbo]

I am very sorry about the serving Jim....

She thinks she is giving you everything, and perhaps she is...but it's not the everything you wanted and for that I truly am sorry.

Thanks Jeanette.

The legal process in most cases take a long time...or is it just mine? Anyway, I'm sure if you want to delay this there is a way and your attorney can assist you with that. But lets say you do get it delayed....what do hope to accomplish by that? It could just piss her off...

I have to admit that since going to the attorney (on our anniversary no less! How's THAT for a kick in the teeth?) I have been vacillating on this point. She is so into the OM now that she and he have plans to get married once the D is final, unless something has changed in the past year, and I have not seen anything to lead me to believe that that has happened. How is delaying the inevitable going to change anything? I am really starting to come around to the possibility that she is just going to have to learn her lesson the hard way, and that all I can do is get out of the way, making it as easy as possible for her to get what she wants, leaving her with the seeds of happy memories of what we used to be that might blossom into her coming back if she chooses, when and if her new R/M implodes. (a.k.a.- give her enough rope to let her hang herself.)

I tend to believe they will crash quicker when the reality is right there to set in, not waiting to happen.

I agree with this also, especially if they are the sole instigators of all the D activity, and we merely roll with the changes and let them do what they are going to do anyway without trying to stand in the way. Guilt and regret will be the silent servants- once the euphoria of young love wears off, anyway, and they realize that they're STILL not any happier than before.

Hey, how wonderful of your neighbor to mow your lawn for you!! Mine were not....my neighbor was kind enough to sleep with my exH.....LOL, count yourself lucky!

Muah!!

Jeanette

Niiiice. Thanks for the visual that will pop into my head every time I mow the lawn now! LOL