My wife would do the same. She would pick them up from daycare, get them dinner, have a young girl come over to play with them while she would workout for a hour, then put them to bed at 7:30. She gets out of work a 5 so she hardly spent anytime with them.
It sucks and it's sad. She can't handle dealing with them right now. Me mode is too strong.
That's why it's so important for you to continue to be there for them like you have been.
