I notice that I get angry when... don't laugh... my H is home on weekends and makes sure that I'm aware that I'm on duty with our baby because he has to take a dump. I try to keep my anger inside because I almost don't understand it myself, but, WTF????? I certainly don't have a babysitter at my fingertips when I have to use the bathroom, do I? I just make it work. Why can't he just make it work and not pin me down once again?
The thought process seems crazy, right? I mean, he's actually trying to be considerate in letting me know that he's going to be unavailable for a bit... But it makes me crazy mad and I feel bad that those feelings rise up in me. (Because he is the hard-working breadwinner, provider, great Dad, awesome H...)
The SAHM life is so rewarding, but it is endless. You never get a real break. Even when your H is home, you are still there and on duty. Even when you take an afternoon to see a GF, you are still on call...
In case that gives you any perspective.
Anyway, the Mars/Venus book is a great suggestion.
