Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing 3

[Thinker]

We never really get into solution mode. She comes into the discussion with a statement of what she is going to do. (ie I am busy tomorrow during the day, so therefore I am going to work out during the early morning) It seems like her assumption is that it is therefore my responsibility to re-arrange and move to a different time. When I don't fold quietly and immediately she get's angry and escalates the argument. By sentence 3 we are not talking about the issue and solutions, she is making broad, sweeping negative attacks on my character.

I think part of my issue is understanding the differences between being flexible and cooperative, and being walked on - or to state it the other way the differences between standing up for myself and being unreasonably inflexible.