Ali, just a thought about x's call re credit card. Would it be possible for you to transfer the debt into or onto a card in your name. I believe it is for a lot of money,it might be a 180 for you and for him to see a different side to you as I think you have quite a relaxed attitude to debt (assuming here I am afraid) It would also be an indicator to him that in all area's of your life you have changed and moving ahead, might make him see or think that you will not be sat around waiting for him to a, end it with Helen and b, decide if he wants to come back to you. Just might make him think! As you are already paying the card off,I guess financially you could manage it.
I suppose you are out now or in bed,which is were I must go. Sleep well-full moon tomorow night.
Hey guys.. no Naej, I am mortgaged, credit carded and loaned up to my eyeballs and then some, thats why the money is still in his name! He was super nice about it though, really.
So I went (knew he wasnt coming anyway) had a lovely evening with Cher and G, as usual he wouldnt let me pay for a thing (but then he is loaded, so I have given up trying !!). I wasnt supposed to know, but after one too many vodka and limes, Cher told me that the reason ex didnt come tonight was because...
he finished with helen.
He rang me 5-5.15ish then G rang him 8.30, when he told G he had ended it with her tonight! So he cant have spent a long time doing it (2 hours max?). He said he didnt want to come out as he felt really bad after dumping her. G and him are going out for a beer tommorow for a post match analysis.
Of course I am pleased, relieved mostly.. but if I dont sound excited.. to be honest, I kind of felt sorry for her and a bit annoyed at him for staying with her for so long that she got attached to him and he has hurt her. As a member of the sisterhood, thats not nice!...Still, that whole May thing is looking pretty likely hey!
I thought he might. I realised from his email, he is not in her office from today, he had a site visit tommorow and then was back in his own office from Monday and said how glad he was to get back to 'stability'. So I had a feeling, but I thought he might do it over the weekend. Wow, he couldnt stand her that much that he did it on a Thursday. Guess he really meant it when he said he would end it when the contract was up !
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
You know whats wierd? I felt the resentments kicking in a little when I heard this news.. the heartache, depression, hair loss, debts he has caused me as well as nearly failing my degree. I have had all that bottled up so much I didnt even allow myself to notice it was there.. but its lurking and its going to have to come out sometime. I still dont understand why he stayed with her for so long.. I bet he is feeling terrible right now.
Having said all of that though... I am pleased. Its a step in the right direction hey and a pretty positive one at that !! 2nd chances are as rare as rocking horse sh*t around these boards, so I realise how lucky I would be.
