Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

Yep. H said at the beginning of all this that he had seen how his father looked when he looked at his mom. He said he's never felt that with me. BS - I've SEEN him look at me that way. BUT, guess that's all part of the script. Mmmm...wonder if MLCers ever become actors with all the the script reciting skills they develop.

Done with my pity partying for the day. S7 has baseball and I'm going to go redo my face and take off for the ballpark. Goal for tonight is no tears, no being snappy with the kids and to get my lazy butt out of bed early tomorrow to treadmill. Also need to find somewhere to be tomorrow night so that we're not sitting around waiting for H to come home. I thought about getting a sitter and going to a party (friends from work, couples, not a wild thing) but I just don't feel right doing that to the kids right now. Plus, then I'd have to let H know and really don't want to contact him.

Question about a 180. I have always taken care of all the responsibilities in our M. From kids to house to bills to making H doctor's appts to taking his dry cleaning, etc. With a MLCer, should I continue to do all of that or should I do a 180 and ask him to take his own dry cleaning, pick up his own meds, etc.? I've always considered it a labor of love, something that made his life easier. But I'm feeling WAY underappreciated right now and wonder if I should cut that off. Previous C said to just let his laundry pile up, but that seems petty. I don't want to be petty but wonder if I should take a stand in any way and make his life a little more difficult or if that would push him away. What do you think?