he is back, i think

[mdoodles]

thank you so much for taking the time to think of me and offer your support! it is so nice to have people in the same type of situation to talk to...

i agree that we need a no contact.

i know a big step was removing him from the nyc area and relocating his job out here in suffolk, that eliminates the chance of him seeing her on a daily basis.

its big that this business is mine too, i am there everyday, i answer the phone, so i know she cannot call or show up.

i love even more that there is no cell phone reception, in case she even tries to call, lol.

in all seriousness, i have tried not to bring her up or mention the affair at this point. i feel like i want to keep the pressure off on that issue because we are dealing with rather large issues, such as the business and losing our home (the affair wreaked havoc on our finances but that is a whole other story). my mindset lately has been, if he is home with me and accounted for, i am laying off the affair discussion until i feel threatened or i sense something not right. so far so good.

i have not heard from the ow in 2 weeks, perhaps she moved on...she never thought of herself as the ow, so maybe now she has come to her senses and sees he really is married and is back with his family.

the hardest part has been his moods, which was always a problem. we are stressed with the store, and i keep telling him that our marriage and the store are 2 separate issues, and that i deserve to be treated kindly and with respect, even when he is in a foul mood regarding something else.

the work never ends...