Ali-- Don't know if it makes a bit of difference but I am Virgo (Aug 24) and he is Sagittarius (20 Dec).
Per the iceberg you mentioned, I would guess there is probably a lot he has done in the past 17 years that he knows about and I don't, so an iceberg is a good analogy. I even said, "You and I have not had sex for 8 months, men your age don't go that long without something (this is what my pastor said to me but I didn't mention the pastor at all last night). And you don't live here so any night of the week you could be going to strip clubs, calling phone lines, or even meeting women. I would have no idea. I am sure if that has happened it is part of the pain and burden that you are carrying and you don't have to hide it anymore." He nodded like he understood me...
Again, his brain can simmer over the convo. (or not). I am home with a sick kid so I haven't really given it much thought. Which is weird since usually I go over every talk we have in my head and break it down and analyze it. This time I don't really have that desire...
