I wouldn't say I was detached. I would say I was following a path of forward progress, and that's why the emotions take over.
I'm determined, AGAIN, to back off, do my thing, etc...
and therein lies the problem...the key to detachment..."no emotion"..in other words when you don;t get a compliment from him on your dress it has no effect on you..because you know you loook good and don't need to hear it from him..
I don't think you'll ever have forward progress as long as you continue to get make 'emotional" mistakes...as long as your emotions play into this then you'll ride the coaster with him...the object is to have him spinning...and you be the stable one...
FWIW...I do beleive this is easier for a man..simply because of the way men are wired...the emotions don't play on us nearly as bad or for as long as they do with a woman..
I'll leave ya alone for a bit...
look inside yourself and find some happiness that does not depend on him..
