d-day coming soon - help !

[misshim]

I need advice for my upcoming D. I'll try to condense this, I'm not sure i'm in the right forum. H left Nov 27 2008 after another conversation of me telling him to talk to me from his heart. Me begging him to include me in his life. The following months were total H*ll, me begging him to come home. H told me that house felt like a prison. H filed for D- 2-18-09, he's doing it himself. I got served 3-3-09.(the same day that I found out my "country" boy bought a new car for his new stripper "friend" - i called her, she isn't much of a friend!! I got a lawyer to protect my house (i bought by myself in 2001) and what little I have. 2nd week of March, we both starting turning around, talking but no r-talks. We have a d-4 and he has told me that she's too much to handle. He apparently never wanted to have her. I've read db & db remedies. Love them and I have realized alot about self. Our D is final june 29, 2009, but w/in last 2 weeks he's at house because he misses d-4 and wants to have supper with us. He puts her to bed and now stays and wants to watch tv with me. I'm so nervous and I try to stay strong. The other night he gave me a hug and said to have a good day at work. I have quit texting him first, now he texts me about his work or wants to know how D-4 had slept. He even asked if he could mow our lawn last weekend. We have a 12 acre hobby farm, so i said sure- he always enjoyed mowing. I have been very in tune to the baby steps I see from him. He talks more now than he ever did. I'm trying to be patient but I also know the D is coming up soon. Do I just sit back and be his friend ? and hope he's thinking too or do I ask him about our R. I believe his A is over (he couldn't afford her), H-lost his right in the church for communion but he still goes, we pray together with our d-4, when he visits, we live in a rural community and he has to pay all day care so he doesn't have much money left. Please someone help, I sound scatter brained but it is all so much to take in, and i'm exhausted. Please offer me some suggestions, I believe I have been doing 180's. I compliment him, he cuts himself down. Sometimes he is opposite, saying how good looking he is and how women want him. I know he's saying that to get me upset. I just look at him and say I'm sure they do ! Then he'll say, "Yeah right". I really do want to save my marriage does anyone have any good ideas?
I enjoy reading everyone's posts, but still need advice