@PD: Hey Pheonix, you don't need to tell me about the rapidity of her return and how quickly she wants to normalize things is unusual. For starters, there is no way that I can afford the car she wants, and I wouldn't get it for her even if I could afford it. I have become very fiscally mindful since she has been gone and I will control the purse-strings for our family if/when she returns. She will get a stipend in our jiont account to purchase things that she wants, and I will handle the bills and household purchases. Her uncontrolled and unsupervised spending contributed to our sitch and I won't let it happen again; believe it.
Also, I do not plan to be a push over for her, either. I do love her, but I have come to love and respect myself in the time that she has been gone. I won't let her walk over me and tell me how things are going to be. If she wants to work on the M (and that includes MC, Date nights, etc.) then I am all for it, but I won't accept the status quo as a solution. I also am going to insist that she either gets a job, goes to school, or volunteers somewhere for something. Her being cooped up in the house with only Dr. Phil and Judge Judy to keep her entertained contributed to her resentment of me and her philandering. You know what they say about idle hands.
Good for you.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
