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[antlers]

I think counting the days gives you a way to break up a very hard task into pieces you can manage. Like when I'm running, and I'm dead tired, and I've got a mile to go, I'll pick a point in the near distance and concentrate on getting there, then once I'm there, pick another point, etc.

I agree, focus on a positive accomplishment. Instead of of focusing on how long it has been with no contact focus on how many days you have done something positive for yourself.

I ran a marathon in '07 and one of the things that kept me going was saying "anyone can run one mile." Just do that 26.2 times and you are there!

Cheers

That makes sense. Just change your perspective! Look at it as how many days you've done something positive for yourself. I like it. Is it really positive for me to do this?

Congratulations.