I would say that a man carries the responsibility to lead.
Perhaps that is terribly old fashioned of me; maybe it is painfully out of touch with a modern, advanced age.
Deida writes his book TO men, FOR men. He comes at his topic from the standpoint of becoming a superior man. He issues a challenge in his writing to MEN.
We all know that there are two sides to every relationship. Of course it is true that men have needs that must be met. Of course it is true that women have responsibilities when it comes to keeping the love relationship in full bloom.
But if we men are honest with ourselves, it is typically us who allow the flames to die down. We are all about the conquest. And when we have won the woman, we put down our swords and bask in our victory. We relax. Not immediately of course, but definitely before long we begin to take for granted that the woman in our life will always choose to be there. We think that we have won a one time challenge, often failing to realize that love is something that must be won day after day.
Deida is speaking to men because men need to be spoken to.
He is speaking to us so that we can know how to reach the woman in our life, how to speak her language, how to understand what she is saying to us in her many words and actions.
It's not really a one sided street that he is presenting. His focus just happens to be on what WE as MEN can and should be considering if we want to know that we are doing what we must each day.
I think that passage is awesome. Incredibly challenging and yet also an amazing goal to be shooting for. I say this as one who is often guilty of the kind of relaxing that I have mentioned above.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
