I could be wrong but I'm guessing you are being more cold and distant than you think. I don't see anything wrong with being friendly when you are around her or talking to her on the phone. It's just that you don't want to initiate the talks but when she's engaging be friendly, someone she wants to be around.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
