Even the nice things he does for me is just a gesture that he wants credit for and shows it off to anyone who will listen "look what I did for my wife" He's looking for recognition, getting a thank you and affection from his family isn't enough.
Wow Irish,
This sounds like the Old me totally. It's strange but yes I was looking for recognition. I was afraid that what I did would not be recognized. BUT what I have found is that when I do things now and "just do them" not waiting for ANYTHING.. I get more recognition. I do think it is kind of a little bit my wife's (and possibly your) responsibility also though. I think because she (and possibly you) knew that is what I was waiting for she went out of her way to NOT do it. I would do something in the past and NOT hear anything about it so I would think she did not realize or appreciate what I did but later I would hear from someone else that she told them what I did. Do you understand? It's like two wrongs do not make a right..(her)"he just did that so I would thank him so I'm not going to thank him" (him) she did not thank me so She does not appreciate what I did".. Around and around it goes..
NOW I am not justifying ANYTHING your H has done. But just this one point that I am making about the "looking for recognition"
This too has to do with "Detachment" that I am going through. To just do things "because" and not waiting for anything in return
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
