... BUT He then asked me every day for a week, "did you show xxx the book I did" , "did you show mrs. xxx the nice thing I did for you"... I was like, what does it matter, wasn't it enough just do something nice for me and leave it at that... nope. He does things half heartdly, not really meaning to do them for me, but in some way for him to get credit for doing it at all. Make sense?
I didn't say this before but it is an important point: His pride is coupled with false pride as well. His own considerable insecurities are at the root of this false pride, You can see this in how he seeks your approval for his accomplishments.
I'd say that his frustration stems from his perceived failure to illicit the positive praise he thinks he needs to feel appreciated and respected. Remember, respect is the vehicle by which a husband feels loved. Without it your H's insecurities are exacerbated. And because, in his pride, he believes that this is something he is entitled to (which to a degree he might) but is being denied, his anger builds. Yes, your H has anger issues that he needs to deal with, but his frustrations are conributing to his loss of control.
