Ali, you are right, it is sad. Yes is planning on getting married to this young girl and so soon. But again I remember when we got together, he married me after only 6 months of knowing each other. He can be so charming and convienceing (I know I misspelled that) that its hard to say no to him. He says he is sooooo angry with me and we will never be friends. I just dont get why HE is angry with ME, it should be the other way around, but I did do some stupid things after he left. I wouldnt accept that he wanted out, so I stalked him basically. The first one I caught him with the morning after I moved back into our origional home, in my opinion, I had a right to be upset and if I could have gotten in the house where they were, it wouldnt have been good. No I am not proud of it now, but then I could of cared less. That one he deserved. The second woman, well he realllly liked her. He recreated a new past life for himself to impress her. We still werent divorced when he was with her at first. I again found out who she was and called her. She was very upset and broke it off with him when I told her the truth about him. I dont think he has gotten over me doing that. This last ow, the one he is with now, he said I WOULD NEVER talk to her. I tried like with the other two, but he conveniced her not to talk to me. That has been months ago and I do regret that. We were and are divorced so I had no right to try and contact her. During this time, I also showed up at his front door and begged him until he let me in. We would be intimate and then he would get mad and throw me out afterwards. I brought all this on myself, I had no pride left. I also would show up and he wouldnt let me in at times, I refused to leave until he threatened calling the law. During some of these times, we were divorced, so he didnt deserve this. I just couldnt get rid of the anger and rejection. I refused to believe he didnt want to be with me any longer. I think this is the reason that he carries so much anger still. I probably ruined any friendship we could have had. BUT he ruined my life, so I guess we ruined each other. I do wish I had a do over and wish I had found this site in the beginning of my sitch. I am hoping that one day he can forgive me for how I reacted as I am trying to forgive him for walking out on his family that needs and loves him so much. I dont understand though how he came to give up the one thing he loved to do and that is fishing. He would go everyday if he could of. He taught my son to love the sport as well. Now he doesnt seem to care and even told my son maybe next year they can go. He doesnt have a truck to pull his friends boat with, BUT he can always go with someone else if he wanted to as he did this alot to. We were so settled in life. He had a good job, a good family and a group of friends that stuck by him, along with the hobby he loved most. He has NONE of the above now with the exception of one close friend (well maybe 2)that I know of and one of them is also going through MLC or whatever because he too left his wife of 25 years.
