Hi DQ - Thanks for that story.

Do I want H back.

No. I am very angry and I hurt for my kids. Dont get me wrong,I would love to have my family back in tact but I realise that I was living with someone , whom I did not really know. I say that in the way he is so hurtful, angry and hateful in his actions towards myself and kids now.

I dont think you can develope the ability to be so insensitive. It has to of been inside you all the time. It makes me wonder if this underlying trait if his , which helped me towards someone else.

The damage H is doing emotuionally to us , is at a point now where it cnnot be forgiven. I am a little luckier than most in that I have complete control of our businesses now and hence his flow of income. This of course is fueling his frustration and anger. Every time he throwa a log on the fire , I tighten the rope. So round and round we go.