Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[kjensen]

Hi IL,
Last posting before my trip. Others here will tell you to protect yourself financially-so think about how you might go about doing that. I did have a hard time thinking that my H was spending our money on the OW-just plain wrong. Thankfully, he has only been spending his business' money on his stuff since he moved.

JTB has great advice. I read Brand New Day's and Yellowrose's threads for info.

I can relate to realizing that you had a part in getting the relationship where it is. Hard realization, humbling. Doesn't excuse the MLC behavor, but it is healthy and good to realize we aren't perfect either and definitely have room for improvement. So use the time to improve yourself whether it ends up helping improve your M to H or a relationship with someone else some other day...

My D11 has lots of meltdowns. She did when she was little and H travelled for work..changes in routine do it for her. It is hard and I can easily get fried and that is when I have my pityparty cries after the kids are asleep. Then I wake up with Lovely PUFFY eyes(after age 40 they just don't deflate quickly!)

Hang in there. Find a way to do something for yourself now and then. I wish you a Happy Mother's Day-your sons are lucky to have you as their mother!