Hi friendws I spoke with XH today I told him I found us a Co parenting Counselor and asked what time is good for him He said" "I am only doing this for the kids and If I try to bring up anything about us he will leave" I said I dont want the R anymore, so this is about the kids tonight he visited kids I went to church he agreed to stay a little later so I could pick up D13 from youth group he rested with s7 before bedtime Son 7 said"dady asked if I pray"? s7 said yes dad asked what do you pray for? son 7 said I cant say b/c it involves you then he told dad I pray you come home that is one of the first times my kids has ever told me dad asked them something so personal peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Hi here some encouragement for standers: neighbors H came back to live after 1.5 years os seperation he is older around 60 or so but he was gone and living in another state..she said it was over..he mentioned to her at thanksgiving how he misses this and came home a few weeks ago
my XH told the kids he wants to see them more, so he will be coming over earlier on saturdays to spend a few extra hours I thought that was hopeful at least for the kids since XH has been very angry and distant to bothe me and kids since divorce got a little messy so hes over it thats good and I took care of myself and kids during D i didnt budge and got everything we as a family deserve xH on the other hand got what he probably deserved tp His 28 yr old GF and his freedom I have to work on forgiveness
I let my new friend GO.. He was fun and we still dance together but he is not right for me even though the ATTRACTION to him was intense that is so weird and a lesson for our us as well as our WAS/MLCers dont let the attraction get control over your senses I feel empowered that I let him go//I prayed hard for this and God lifted it at least for today
peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Encouraging stories are always nice to hear. Thanks for sharing that.
Good for H for spending more time with the kids. Hope that continues. So curious to hear how the co-parenting counseling goes with him.
I'm glad you found an answer on what to do with the new friend. I actually think it's good you were open to it. Otherwise, there's no way you would have known if he was right for you. I didn't have time to post to you when you mentioned him, but the funny thing is that I was going to say the exact same thing - that you may find he's just not right for you.
Been thinking about posting again, but no major updates. It's been almost 3 years of S for H and I. No changes in our R. I heard that H and ogre broke up a few months ago, but seems they are back together AGAIN. H may have even dated someone else briefly. He's given me no signs of wanting to reconcile, and that's ok. My life is full (except for that huge gaping hole in my heart that occasionally reveals itself) and I'm moving on as well as can be expected. Haven't let go completely and not sure I ever will be totally successful at doing so. Still hoping for the best, whatever that may be...
Sh thanks for visiting and posting 3 years of this--unbelievable glad to hear your H and ogre are having issues and breaking up maybe the beginning of the end I sense 3 years is probably the mark for many of these affairs Glad to hear you ar moving on as best you can Ogre and my xh ow are both 28, but my H is 42..your is still in 30's anyway hope you will postan update and I will be looking for you many of our old posters are off the board or visit sporticaaly peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Peace, you are so special. I think God has something great in store for you. Good for you that you did what was best for you regarding friend. It really is your h's loss all the way around. But I know your children have suffered. I hope he is on the way back to being a better parent. Hang in there, my friend.
Hi peace- Your clarity and self control show how much you have grown. beginnersmind is right, you are so special and you deserve someone who appreciates you to the fulliest. Don't ever settle for less than that. At least this flirtation has helped you move forward and has shown you that there are possibilities out there.
I am glad your XH is expressing more interest in the kids. They need him in their lives...and not just for a few hours a week. I hope he continues to take more interest.
