They made a choice. They didnt fall overboard.. they jumped ship. There is a difference IMHO.
Ok, yes. Good way of putting it. They did choose, but we are responsible to an extent to not push them further out to sea. Kindness and compassion is necessary. That's my opinion at least. Not to the point of being a doormat, but to respect their choice as their own and leave them to face to consequences of it.
I do not see my actions as doing anything other than presenting the consequences for DH to deal with. It is his fallout, not mine. It is time he picks up the pieces for a change..
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I think SMW is doing that whole-heartedly. Letting her DH wallow in the mess he has made of his family. No man with any kind of self-respect could face that for very long without trying to make some changes. Those changes won't necessarily translate to restoring the M, but it could be changes for the better within himself.
Thank you for the support Mish. While I have no expectations that DH realizing the extent of the hurt h is giving the kids will bring him back, I still have hope that through realizing that pain and working to alleviate it, he will find that his family is where he wants to be.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
