A New Decade - Part 2

[Kenn]

Well it is obvious that you need to cut something out of your busy life.... I for one enjoy your posts so I vote for forgoing either sleep or work. Your choice

[JCJ]

lol Kenn

Sorry you were so busy, I hope you have managed to rest now.

[MsMelancoly]

It seems I am forgoing sleep to post instead!! lol

Nope, no rest yet. There's a light at the end of the tunnel. Tomorrow is my last day until 9pm & this weekend my 1st off. Aahh, I cannot wait!! So it seems my H has plans on his b'day with Bob to play laser tag. No big deal, arranging another time.

You should have seen the look on the managers face, when I asked for a few hours off for tomorrow. I told him I would like to take my STBXH out for his b'day dinner. He gave me the strangest look. I just said, it's complicated. And it is ... kind of??

[MichelleLT]

ROTFLMAO

[Kenn]

So have you ever played lazer tag???????

Believe me MsM... I'd rather go to dinner. Unless you were planning on going to the snack bar at the laser tag place for dinner???????????????

[MsMelancoly]

No, I never have. I take it it's pretty cheesy/boring - then? Remember this is my H "best friend" that he needs to spend less time with.

Well, I guess it may give me one more brownie point?!?!

[MsMelancoly]

Ok, So I'm reading these e-newsletters I get about dating from this one ...hhmmm.. ebook author. Anyway this newsletter is talking about honesty & lying. It says men lie because they hate the emotional reactions from women. Women need to have an "Anything is OK" attitude. Not to mean anything is ok to do, but that anything is ok to tell me & I won't freak out. Interesting. It also says to get a man to be honest (usually men are most honest on the 1st or 2nd dates) - but to get them to be honest use these 3 words: I'm Just Curious. (Examples: What kind of relationship are you looking for, I'm just curious? Are you seeing anyone else, I'm just curious? What kind of women do you admire, I'm just curious?).

Any thoughts anyone, I'm just curious??

[JCJ]

That is *really* interesting and rings true. I might try it out tomorrow

Is it evening for you yet? i'm about to go to bed but I just wanted to say I hope you are treating yourself tonight - you deserve it especially after your hard work these past few weeks. Have a dirty martini for me!

You really helped me earlier, thank you!

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Julia, I was hoping you would read & find it interesting. Maybe one of your next "dates" can be a secret guinee pig for this test? Or maybe Michelle & her R - can be???

I'm still at work (this is my last night). Yippeeee!!! My H ditched me to spend his b'day with his man friend. Man friend, that sounds funny, how about bmf .... now that sounds like a disease. - lol - Oh, well his loss! I did send him a b'day card.

[Kenn]

I don't know about that "curious thing"... in some cases it would work. If you are asking a guy about something non specific....like what guys think about "girls who ask guys out"

But if you turn it into a question that is specific to him ... like "Are you seeing anyone else, I'm just curious?" It doesn't matter how you word it... if he is a liar he will still lie becasue you put the focus on hiim


the whole idea of being someone who is just curious and not up tight about the answer is big.... but just remember there are guys who lie because they are losers. and there are guys who don't ..period!

and of course there are guys who willredirect the question because they are nervous about how you will react,,,,

ditch the liars.... they suck!!!!!!!!!