Make sure you really drop it. Don't bring it up again. Backslides happen to all of us, but the important part is to learn from them and not let them happen again. Don't worry about this one anymore.
You're asking how to move forward. I believe you have been moving forward over the past months. You have gone out and picked up some activities, you went with friends for drinks, etc... You need to make yourself happy. If H wasn't there at all, would you be happy with your life right now? That's where you want to be. Find yourself. Find friends, activities and hobbies that make you happy. I think a happy couple shares their lives with each other. Now is the time to make sure you are happy with your life. Then, hopefully, your H will want you to share your life with him and he will share his life with you. Your H has to do the same work as you, make himself happy.
I'm in my sitch because I did not know how to make myself happy. I was relying on my W way too much for that. That's the other reason I think our S has helped. It forced me to face that fact and work on myself. I'm pretty content by myself now. That's not to say that I don't long for a family life, because I would love that, but I am looking forward to doing things by myself and doing the things I like to do. And I think W notices and likes that much better.
The point I want to make is that I learned the hard way. You don't have to. Accept the fact that you cannot change his feelings, you can change you only and make yourself more attractive that way. It doesn't sound like he's having an A, so just give him space and time and move FORWARD with your life in all aspects as you would if you had a great M.
I just noticed that your ILYBNILWY came around the same time as mine, so we've been going parallel!
Don't worry! Detach! You have done it and you can keep doing it! Go back to the MB that went out with friends and had some drinks. I can't remember what it was exactly, and when, but you had the PERFECT detached response to your H once while watching a game in the bleachers and he was asking about a text or something... It's been a while, but I remember it was great! I'll have to find it. Go back to that!
