Mindblank #4 - Can I borrow some meds?

[ernest88]

First off....act "as if" you are OK..your world as you know it is awesome..you smile all the time..you look like the frinkin cat that swallowed the biggest canary that it could find..

and...drop this train of thought

what to "do"

there is simply nothing you can do to restore this M..get that in your head..stop trying "stuff"

stop nagging him..do your thing when he is away..when he is around be pleasant..do what you have been doing...do not bug him about how he does not act loving around you...just do what you have been doing..nothing more, nothing less...be the wife who loves unconditionally...

Home is together.
All finances are together.
Careers separate.
3 children being raised together. Both of us highly involved.
H works out of town during the week (for the most part).
I work at home and take care of the kids solo during the week (for the most part).
We are together, almost non-stop, when H is in town.

to me this is wonderful and the way it should be..you are married..the M is just missing the intimacy part right?? Ya need to show him the MB that he saw when you first met..she's in there somewhere..she just got all caught up being a mother and parent...

no more apologies..

it's time for you to let go...

it's time for you to GAL..it's time for you to find either an MC or an IC to talk to..and I find it hard to believe you can't go talk to someone...after all..you post here for millions to see..you talk to us..so I know you can talk to someone..you need a real life person..to talk to...

its' all been laid out before you...the key to all this is in your threads...the best here IMO have guided you..

detachment is a wonderful thing...it's a fine line..a tightrope...detach just enough and H might come running back..detach too much and......wellll..you'll end up like me...

see...I walked away...but I was dealing with batchitt crazy...but having said that...detachment is still a good thing..it prepares you for what may happen or what might not happen..and if your truly detached..you'll be damn good either way..