I guess here is where I get a little lost...

I do believe God has the rope for you SMW...but it may not be a rope to save your M or bring you back together...it could be a rope to pull you away from DH.to save you..of course only God has the answer to that.

and I don't view this as loving unconditionally

Quote:
Loving unconditionally means that I have to keep trying.


I guess we all have our own definitions but unconditional love to me is

having it in your heart to take them back when or if they return..I have a real problem when a LBS says they need to keep "trying" saying that makes me think that the LBS means they have a plan to bring them back..in all actuality..they come back when and if they want..it's their (WAS) decision IMO..