Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

Yep, H accused me early on of making changes just to please him. I know I was really guilty of that immediately post-bomb. But now that I've had more time for reflection, I think it's still true to some degree, but now I'm only making changes that I would also want to make for myself and also making some that are things he's never mentioned b/c I know they're things I need for ME. One of his complaints is that I'm not organized enough (he likes a spotless house, no clutter, closet organized by type of clothes and color, etc.). I've not really done anything in this area yet as it's not made the top of my list yet and it really would be just about trying to please H.

Opinion - H hasn't been calling the boys when he's gone. Should I encourage them to call him or would that be perceived as pushing/pursuing? I'm not sure when he says he needs time apart to "get his head straight" if that means just from me or from the boys too. What do you think?

BTW, do you have a thread? I'd love to know your sitch.