Hey Mish, YES! To respect their choice essentially, as hard as that is and remain their compassionate, loving friend...but let them go, live their choice, feel the weight of their decision. BUT.. my DB coach told me not to refer to my ex's depression or buy into his moaning or complaining or say, ohh are you ok? Men dont like to be reminded of their suffering, it makes them feel inadequate and its not generally how they communicate. Its a fine line, but better to be the fun, upbeat, greener grass.
I think I may have to give up posting this stuff, I feel like I am shouting into the wind and anyway, what do I know? My ex is still not home either, despite some pretty positive messages from his friends.
