the ones here who succeed truly detach and "let them go"..there have only been a couple I have seen or posted to personally..one is Gforce and another who reconciled but no longer posts... Mish..I'm saying...if ya let em go they may come back..if you don't they won't..
I said myself on your last thread SMW
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I am just trying to say.. I think you need to let him go.. he needs to do this.. hopefully he will wake up and realise OW is a turd and you are a shining beacon of loveliness.. and come home
Kalni is an example, where she really detached and let go and her H came back. I dont see anything else working around here and I NEVER saw a M restored through the power of prayer alone, sorry.
And yes this is upsetting and frustrating and not fair and we all want to do something, create some effect on the them, but the way to do that is to put doubt in their minds about the decision they have made...correct bad habits, grow, be a better person, attractive, fun, whatver you were that floats his boat, embrace life, be happy, etc etc.. whatever in YOUR sitch is relevant, but essentially, the girl that he first fell in love with (allowing for childbirth and maturity, so within reason!) and let them be and let them go, do what they have to do, find themselves and hopefully, come back around full circle and realise what they lost.
SMW... are you again, the girl he fell in love with? Becuase thats what you have to be to create doubt in his mind and fight the ow. Which afterall, is what we are trying to achieve here, according to the DB priniples !??
but there is alot of talk here to what amounts to "saving them", metaphorically throwing life lines/life belts...but you cannot 'save' anyone and especially if they swam off and dont wish to be saved.
They made a choice. They didnt fall overboard.. they jumped ship. There is a difference IMHO.
