K,

There's significance here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1763587#Post1763587

I once read a poem written by a Chemistry professor that said simply:
"People copulate, and the molecule remembers ...".

Perhaps H's bad reaction in the car the other day is a conditioned defensive response, ... he somehow has to trust you and unlearn. The other side of the coin is the 'old you' may still be lurking below the surface.

My 2 drachmas!