Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing 3

[Thinker]

Good Point Coach,

I guess that is not really the question. It is really more a matter of me changing approaches and being a bit more "pursuing" if I do that.

It does fit with everything else right now. I would say that recently I have been "gently pursuing". I initiate hugs and she hugs back and I initiate snuggling in bed or on the couch while watching TV and she snuggles back - but neither is too often. This morning I initiated a good-bye kiss and she kissed me back. Today I gave her a rose and she was happy. I haven't gone farther, don't pressure, and she does not initiate anything. So I am pursuing right now, but lightly. Saying ILY would up the ante a bit.

For years, my W was the pursuer. She was the snuggler, the kisser, the one who made sure we always said ILY when we hung up the phone with each other. Then she stopped. Now she is emotionally incapable of initiating affection. Several months ago I asked her to start and she said she "just can't"

It's my turn. As someone else pointed out, it's time for me to take some risks and get rejected some.

I'm more than willing - but really don't want to scare her back into full WAW mode.