Today went into work, trying to get busy and not think about H and M. I had decided to not contact him again at this time.
When it was time to go home I checked my phone and over the day had 2 txts, a missed call (+email) from H asking if he could stop by tonight to have a look at the computer.
Yesterday he said to me to try n sort it out myself by doing 'x' or ask my brother(which is a little unrealistic as he lives in a different country with a huge time difference). So I decided to try and figure it out myself or find help elsewhere.
So something must have changed his mind in wanting to help me out or do something nice as he completely changed his tune.
I had plans to go to gym with friend after work so I returned H's call and said I have plans until 6:30 so that would not work.
H replied can he come over after that? So I agreed.
H showed up nice and pleasant and did as said as well as being very chatty with me. I listened and was upbeat and pleasant and asked q's only about a couple computer stuff I needed to find out about. (H wasn't able to fix anything right now, but offered that if it got worse he'd take it into the IT people at his office and have them look at it for me. Which I thought was a nice offer)
H then asked if I would like to go grab a bite to eat with him. As I hadn't cooked any dinner bc we were working on pc, I said you must have just heard my stomach growling(as it had, but he didn't hear). So we had some fast food and kept up with good conversation about friends and things happening in our lives. Afterwards, we walked a while since it was still quite early for him to go catch his train home. Until I said ok I'm going to head back then and let you go ahead. H hugged me tight and then we said our good bye's. H had mentioned dr. apt in morning bc of a problem he'd been having so said he'd let me know if it was anything serious but he was pretty sure it wasn't.
Also, over on a infidelity/affairs forum I had gotten some advice about inviting H to do something fun and doing fun things when we did see each other so as to push out old memories of unhappy M with new images of fun and being happy together.
Not sure if this was the right time given all the R talk in the last week that has passed but as the night had gone so smoothly I thought I'd give it a try and asked Would you like to do something fun together, like go bowling, sometime? And H replied with a very positive yes he would really like to. So anyway didn't set a day to do it yet but at least I got a positive response.
Strictly kept to no questions, no R talk, nothing about possible OW. I am glad to have stuck to that.
SO I guess since this seemed to work tonight, I just keep doing that right?? Any tips?
Me-27 H-28 M-2.5 yrs T-8.5 yrs No kids B 1/09 S 2/09
