No MLC is going to respect the boundaries at first, and because of that no LBS is really going to enforce the boundaries at first.
So for a while you learn what you can live with, vent and be a doormat. Really, you basically becoem a doormat for awhile all the validating and babysteps and no r talks or I love yous.
Boundaries come down the road, when you have some experience under your belt and some self respect... That sounds weird...let me just say that too much self respect and your not married, not at first. You're done and your seeking a divorce. Too much self respect at the cost of marriage respect...and yes I know he isn't respecting the marriage...well if he is in MLC he doesn't respect much of anything in this temporary insanity.
Boundaries come later. When you are able to live up to them and enforce them. You make one and cannot livee up to it...then you REALLY are a doormat and they don't fear your reprocussions.
You have to believe in MLC to make it through this though...many cannot, many don't believe in it and that's fine...I am pretty sure that those that don't believe in it are the ones that are no longer married. Not saying that if you do believe in it you will be...just saying it helps to believe that somehting is crushing their mind and morals in their crazy little head.
Read up on the resources at the top.
Telling your boys is fine, as long as you are doing it where they are not pawns.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
