Exactly. And I have taken every possible step short of the Psych Eval prior to making the decision to fire that volley. I asked her to get help. I asked her family to help me get her help. I asked any number of things - and ultimately I took this action when no other opportunity was available.
Just like the contested D... I was willing to file jointly, get it over with, etc. but she was offended that I drew up papers... after saying she wanted the D. Nothing I asked for was unreasonable. I asked for 50/50 split custody and pretty much a 65/35 split of our savings (in her favor). Otherwise it was hold each other harmless for debts and go our separate ways.
Wasn't good enough for her. She seems more interested in assigning blame than in actually getting divorced. I ask her what she wants out of the D and the canned response is "I dunno." It is crazy-making.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
