So true Pup. Although sometimes for me its, gosh, I think I said too much and I should have instead said this or that.
More text from H:
H: everytime something is on your mind u call me. Now something is on my mind u don't answer the phone. its ok this is my last text. sorry i wouldn't keep u from your baby. H: All is good now.
And he throws adult tauntrums to get his way by getting an attitude. And I've been know to cave in. Trying not to this time and several more times. I can baby him when we're in an honest R but not when he's with another woman.
Yeah, he's trying to control you. He reminds me of someone I know. He's the type to not do anything about your marriage until the divorce papers are sent and ready to be filed. You have no control over him just like he has no control over you. He can make whatever choices he wants, but I think he will wait until forced to make a choice. Just a prediction.
WDID, I think you are right too. Sadly enough same thing with us even getting married. We had a great R and H just won't do it. One time let's do it another next year. It wasn't until I was totally sick and tired that he got married. He even tried to get out of it when plans were made but I was going to be through if we didn't - we were already together 9 years. And now this bullcrap that he's pulling. I swear sometimes I think H is the luckiest man to even have me still wanting the M that he has not earned. Seems like its time for him to earn it.
I have looked into filing the D but because of all of our assets, it would be way too expensive. I just don't have the cash to spend on something that I'm not even ready for. But I know for sure H has earned a divorce. So I'm just trying to divorce him emotionally for now.
So after H's last text and my hours of laughter I decided to be a bit naughty. About 5 hours after I received H's last text message, I texted him: "OK".
To be honest I just did this to piss him off and to get a good laugh. He wanted to get a rise out of me and I know he wished I had more to say like usual. But just ok ... I enjoyed that.
and I should have instead said this or that. 