I know this is SMW's thread, but SC, I thought you 'got' where I was coming from. In my case I am offering him the life preserver, but for me it will most likely be for the last time. I want to help lift him up, not go under with him. If he refuses help and continues to flounder, so be it!
BBJ-
I don't think what you are doing wrong, but make sure you do not get sucked into drama in the process. Pray, alot, before you talk to him. Ask God to give you wisdom, grace, and strength to get through it and that Dan is receptive to what you say. then, leave it in God's hands.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7