WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 8

[AnotherNightmare]

She's complained that I was cold when I did talk to her to the point where she said that if that's the way I'm going to treat her that she can't see working on a relationship with me.

My first thought was "So what?" She did not work with you on the R when you were trying to please her every day still living in the same house.

So now when I do talk to her, typically once a day, only when she calls. Typically it starts with something tactical about the kids (ie scheduling) but then moves into chit chat mode. That's when I try to get off the phone quickly, but politely

I would not take her calls except for in the evening to talk to the kids. Let them go to VM, and - if really necessary - respond with an e-mail. Try to be more of a mystery to her. If she complains about you not being accessible, tell her that it was her choice to separate.

My goal from 4 weeks when she moved out is to get to a point where my wife will want to go out and do something with me not related to the kids. That may be too soon but thought I would at least see how she's feeling

As long as you are available to her on the phone to talk about everything she wants to talk about, why would she want to go out with you?